Couples often talk about feeling closer in the days after the birth and a shared excitement about the baby they’ve created. However, when this ‘babymoon’ period wears off and your ‘new normal’ sets in – exhaustion, broken sleep, chores that are hard to put off – most couples find their stress levels go up.
It’s a time of major adjustment in all sort of ways – your identity, responsibilities, routines and relationships are all changing. You may discover that you and your partner have different ideas about family life or parenting. Both of you probably feel like you’re the one making all the concessions, and this can lead to an increase in arguments and tension. In the early days, the key is to stay positive and support each other as you learn how to parent together. Talking with your partner is the best way to deal with these changes and look after your relationship.