Depression and its related symptoms are much more common than you might expect.
Anxiety, stress and general difficulties adjusting to parenthood may occur during pregnancy, or after you have had your baby.
On average, up to 1 in 7 mums and 1 in 10 dads will experience post or perinatal depression and anxiety.
Many parents may be suffering from depression and anxiety and aren’t getting help because they feel embarrassed or ashamed. Not getting help can interfere with the enjoyment every parent is entitled to during parenthood. By seeking support early you’re taking very important steps to help yourself feel better, sooner – which is better for you and your baby.
There are many factors that may contribute to a parent being more ‘at risk’ of experiencing depression and anxiety. These include:
For example: grief, loss, moving house and changing or losing a job
As parents we can all experience different types of stresses and may feel anxious from time to time. Some of the more severe symptoms of anxiety that require awareness include:
Overwhelming feelings of panic that are difficult to control
Depression comes in different forms. You may be experiencing depression if you display symptoms like:
These are lasting, and often out of character
Disturbed sleep or racing thoughts at night
Under or overeating
Either self-harm or harm to your baby
If you’re experiencing some of the changes listed above, or feel an acute, extended distress that impacts your daily ability to function, you may need to speak with a health professional. They’ll work with you to help identify the best approach to improve your mood, through a tailored plan of action.
Professional help may come from your GP, a counsellor, or your child and family health nurse. During the consultation, you may be asked to provide your family history, and/or complete a questionnaire on your feelings.
The importance of seeking help early:
If you think you might be experiencing depression or anxiety, seek help early. Doing so has been proven to have many benefits, including:
With your partner, baby, and/or other children
Taking good care of yourself is the most important thing to take good care of your baby. Taking steps towards personal self-care makes a real difference when adjusting to your new role as a parent.
Sit outside in the fresh air with a cup of tea, go for a walk, take a relaxing bath, or do something that you enjoy.
Meeting and chatting with other new parents offers a valuable source of company and support. The Resourcing Parents website can be helpful.
Even reading a magazine for a few minutes can provide the mental break you need.
A well balanced diet will give you the right energy to care for your child.
Try to fit in some physical activity each day. This could be a walk with the pram, home yoga, or a gym membership.
If friends and family offer to pitch in, use your free time for self-care.
If you ever feel overwhelmed or that you can’t cope, don’t be afraid to seek the help of a healthcare professional.
Sometimes you may become so preoccupied with the needs of your baby, you don’t even realise you’re struggling. You may recognise your feelings, but not know how to talk about them. Often, it’s a partner or family member who first notices something’s wrong.
Whatever the situation, we know having a supportive partner, family member or friend makes a real difference when a parent is overwhelmed. If you’re in the position to help a vulnerable parent, we recommend:
Don’t be judgemental with your opinions and advice.
Let them know you want to understand how they are feeling, and that you’re there for support.
Offer to babysit – or even help out around the place. Cooking, cleaning and washing are great ways to pitch in! Be mindful to help out without taking over.
Let them know it’s OK to take personal time.
Let them know it’s alright to seek professional assistance if they need it.
We are with you every step of the way
1300 CARING | 1300 227 464
An organisation promoting good mental health
www.beyondblue.org.au
24-hour counselling
131 111
Other useful websites include:
Support for perinatal depression
Centre of Perinatal Excellence
Postnatal depression
Children of Parents with a Mental Illness
